I am constantly over-analyzing situations. I can’t stand when I do it, but I almost can’t stop myself. Lately I have been trying to make a conscious effort to stop over-thinking things I cannot change. It is a serious problem that just makes me stressed out and unhappy.
The hardest part about growing is letting go of what you were used to, and moving on with something you’re not.
When my boyfriend and I broke up, and this was a little over a month ago, this was a huge change in my life. We had been together almost 5 years, and while it had been my decision to make the change, it was still a big decision for me. That part of my life had turned toxic, it was an unhappiness that had started to leak into other parts of my life, but in the end, I just wanted nothing to do with it. When I realized I didn’t want to give up other parts of my life in order to be with him or spend time with him, I knew it was time to let go.
It’s usually quite hard to let go and move on, but once you do, you’ll feel free and realize it was the best decision you’ve ever made.
Oh boy is that quote ever true! I do feel really free. I feel more focused on school. I feel like I have time to spend on my other hobbies, and I don’t feel guilty that I am not spending time with someone else instead of enjoying my own time. I had really started to put my own hobbies aside because I thought I should instead be with him whenever I had free time on the weekends, because we didn’t have a lot of other time together. And now, I don’t have to worry about that. I can focus on me and my studying and my own fun stuff. I can spend a few hours sewing or painting if I want to. Or I could take a nap in the middle of the day, because I don’t need to hurry to get stuff done so I am free later. Its so relaxing to realize I don’t have to rush unless I want to.
What you allow is what will continue.
Of course there are some days I am bored and miss having somewhere to be and socializing. I am working on that tho. I’m trying to make new friends, and spend more time talking with and being with my old friends that I tend to “let go” of once I am in a relationship. Another poor habit I am hoping to break this time around.
If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down. Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
This is also true about things. I am a collector of things. I feel the need to save things incase of future use, or because of sentimental value. I’ve been reading a lot about minimalism lately. And the whole law of attraction. If you have a lot of stuff and are constantly thinking about all this stuff, you will continue to have all this stuff. If you think negatively about these things, only negative thoughts will follow. With that in mind, I’ve been looking through my things and trying to sell or donate as much as I can. I seriously went through my closet and emptied out a lot of clothes. I don’t need all this stuff, someone else might really love these clothes, I should give them away. Those are the thoughts I’ve been having about a lot of things. So much clutter around my space. The clutter is suffocating sometimes. Makes me antsy and stressed. Makes me want to empty out my space and start over.
Back to the law of attraction, one of the examples in The Secret is about a woman who was actively searching for a husband, she lived alone, in a full house of her own things. She was given advice to start living in her house as if she was already living the life she wanted. So she parked on one side of the garage, and opened up space on the other. She cleaned out her closet to have room for someone else’s things, she slept on one side of the bed. End of the story, she found a wonderful man to marry. Personally, I think that is an extreme example. However, the truth is still there, while I have all these possessions holding me back, I am not prepared for my future, the one that I want. The one where I am living on my own with my own household items. In a clean house/duplex/condo/etc, all my own, where I can come home after work and spend time on my hobbies or with friends or whoever. So I’m cleaning out. I’m removing items that I don’t think I would move with me, or items from the last time I lived on my own, over 5 years ago. Cleaning house, donating my household items, makes me happier to know I am helping someone, as well as myself, move on.
If you are diligent and patient, everything you truly need in your life will come to you at the right time.
Quotes from moregreatminds.com